Alma desires to give unto his sons individualized instruction and the blessing of a righteous father and priesthood holder. It is according to the design of the Almighty that fathers have the responsibility to bless and counsel their children. Fathers and mothers should sit together in council on how best to nurture and teach their children. This is a sacred and holy responsibility that is not transferable (see Mosiah 4:14–15; D&C 68:25–28). Giving correction is one of the most difficult things we do as parents. It is our duty to correct, as moved upon by the Holy Ghost, early on and with clarity so that there is no misunderstanding, and always in love (see D&C 121:41–43). In correcting children, we must ensure that they always feel that it is done in love. They need to know that the only reason we correct them is because we care for them and love them. As the action of Alma shows, it is through these family relationships that we come to understand our relationship with our Heavenly Father—how and why He loves, chastens, and blesses us.
Teaching moments emerge as parents plan and ponder about counseling and blessing their children. There are also scheduled times such as family home evening, family scripture time, and family council. Mealtimes often present ideal opportunities to discuss the events of the day, build relationships of trust, and teach or discuss principles of the gospel. Do we have an effective action plan on how and what to teach our children? Do we counsel together as parents and as a family? Do we give father’s blessings to our children? Do we give priesthood blessings as the need and opportunity might arise?
The commandments of Alma to his son Helaman. [Note: This preamble was included in the original edition of the Book of Mormon published in 1830.] (Including chapters 36 through 37.)